attracted or interested
good morning people. first of all, i would like to thank Mr. James Taylor, for his wonderful rendition of Fire and Rain. nothing like waking up to a nice tune in your head.
alrightee then, on with today’s blogbuster (did anyone get the pun? sorry, i suck at subtleties). there was a drilling question, annoying right, just before i drifted into deep slumber. how do you define an attraction as opposed to being interested with another individual? i guess you could say, i slept on that question and woke up with no answers in sight. however, i have tried rationalizing, in my own capacity, what it feels to be attracted to someone. so here goes:
attraction/attracted: i seem to notice minute things about the other person. their clothes, their hair, their smile, their voice, their moods et cetera. basically, it’s the small and big things about a person, which makes them unique as an individual. sometimes, the attraction can be just on the surface and sometimes it can be, more than skin-deep. i admit, there have been times i was attracted to people for their persona and charisma. you know, the “something about mary” factor. hormones? pheromones? guess i will never know. *touchwood* i haven’t crossed the boundaries into obsession…yet, but i have come close to the grey area in between. so what did i do about it? well, i told the person face to face. i think she was a bit shocked, but I saved the situtation, thankfully to good communication skills. we’re still good friends, which is why i’ve mentioned before. being good friends is just a step away.
interested: when i am interested in a person, it could be for a whole lot of reasons. maybe i am just curious or maybe it’s due to attraction (refer to the paragraph above). sometimes, people are so unique that it’s like refreshing drink after a long period of thirst. you can’t help but to wonder, and this really pushes my ‘interested’ button. i wonder at times, if i would do well as a person analyst? yes-no? it’s like a small kid with a new toy and the act of systematically taking it apart to see what makes it tick. i wanna know what makes them tick too, i.e. how some of them can see the rainbow in the most troubled times. life is sometimes beautiful and amazing. la vita e-bella.
i have still, not understood the actual distinction between attraction and the feeling of being interested in someone. can someone help me out before i blow a fuse up in my head? oh, another question just popped in my mind (here we go again). would you be more inclined to seek relationship with a person, whom you are a) attracted to b) interested in?
so many questions, yet so little answers. life’s like that, i guess. cest la vie
i stumbled upon your blog from the random button and i just wanted to add my two cents worth because you present an interesting argument. your dilemma with interest and attraction isn’t an easy one. i think that it could be the same sort of feeling just in varying degrees. in my humble opinion ideally it would be best to have a relationship with someone you’re both interested in and attracted to. when you’re attracted to someone thats already a form of interest in them, you just got to get closer to them to let the interest grow further, and when you’re interested in someome, in the way their mind works, its kind of like skipping out on the attraction part and getting to know them as persons. either way, whoever you are more inclined to have a relationship with, you have no guarantee that it is the right choice, but personally i would go for attraction and build further upon the interest already there.
There you again dear tempus…racking your brains out and drowing yourself in thought processes. Hmmm…which I do myself…hehehe
But maybe we need to take a step back at times and realize that some things should not be rationalized but rather simply experienced. In instances such as so we just have to live in the moment and enjoy the ride, cause then by then the heart would know what to do.
How I wish we could have these conversations in mamak sessions with teh tarik.
By the way I TAGGED you in my blog. So your turn to answer the questions and post it up here. Here’s the link http://adreamcatcher.blogspot.com/2005/06/power-of-music.html
thanks for the comments! you are both right, i guess i just wasnt thinking straight. time to sit down and really analyze my life and some other burning questions. who knows, maybe i will get better advice again this time around!
I agree with ‘anon’.but i think Feelings, or sometimes called ‘chemistry’ would explain when did the ‘attraction’ sets in. You would have to partially know the person a little initially before you can be attracted/interested in that person right?But after you have been attracted to the person you areinterested in, would anyone ‘dare’ to make the first move to proceed to the next level of attraction?
Hi, saw your comments in my blog… already did a comeback but not quite yet ready to ‘come out’. anyway, thanks for your comments. will keep you informed when my blog is done. (:
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